It’s been a few weeks since I have had something to post about! I’m currently working on a few posts but since they are series I am waiting to publish them until they are all done. I recently celebrated my 25th birthday and given that I am now a quarter of a century old I will bestow upon you my wise words of wisdom.* My close family and friends have noted how different I am now then when I was in college. I think JR’s exact words were “you are a lot less uptight.” I’ll take that as a compliment! So below are 25 things I’ve learned in the past few years.
*if you didn’t read this in a sarcastic voice you are reading it wrong!
Millennial Disclosure: I usually despise using the word millennial in a negative light since we get enough of it already but I recently read another gal’s blog where she blatantly says at the beginning of each post to “not insert yourself into my life.” Below are things that I feel, think, have learned, and am feeling open enough to post on the ol’ World Wide Web. If you like them great, cool, feel free to share them (I would love it if you would!). If you don’t like them please don’t get offended. Our generation is chastised enough for winning the most offended award – apparently it’s another medal on our shelf of participation ribbons. 🙂
On to the list!
- You can try to complain, rationalize, wish, and pray your student loans away but your best bet is to start paying on them…like, today! You will be surprised what an extra $300-$400/month a does!
- For those in relationships, the number one way we grew closer and improved our relationship was focusing on our faith and finding a great church. If you are single, a great place to meet guys is church! 😉 (kidding, kind of!)
- Relearn how to make friends post-college. Living in a new city with barely any girlfriends I feel super lonely sometimes. I made a very very best friend this past fall and you really have to put yourself out their and sometimes it feels a little awkward. It’s not as easy as meeting people at a frat party or an extra credit “networking” opportunity for class. Be the forward girl that says hi and introduces herself – you won’t regret it!
- You are never too old for Forever21, yoga pants, or the juniors section at Target.
- As much as I still chatter away, I feel like as I grow older I learn to shut my mouth a bit more often and listen quite a bit more.
- If you aren’t sure where your life is going work/career-wise “Garden City” by John Mark Comer is a great read.
- Don’t get a dog until you have a permanent living situation.
- Travel as often and as much as you possibly can! Stay in a crappy hotel, book that last minute flight, make travel plans with friends, drive 10 hours and talk to your husband/S.O. in the car. JR and I probably spend at least 50* hours a month in the car and some of the best conversations have happened then. *probably an exaggeration but sometimes maybe not!
- The best thing to spend money on for your wedding is a good DJ, your honeymoon, and your photographer.
- You are never too good for a job. No matter what your degree, where you went to school, grades, family, experience level or connections look like, you are never too good for a job and the experience you will get. As millennials we were “promised” this perfect post-grad job and lifestyle that isn’t realistic. Get a job, work your ass off, and learn as much as you can in your twenties and worry about salary and money later on!
- On that note, comparison truly is the thief of joy. Be happy for your friends and don’t compare your bank account, salary, and lifestyle. Live within your means and focus on your own career, not how your’s pales or shines in light of another’s.
- Try and be a plant lady. (I’m still in the “trying” phase)
- If you haven’t experienced it, then it’s probably best to shut up. I have been guilty of this a billion times over. If you don’t have kids, don’t tell someone when or how to be parents. If you’ve never struggled with your weight or body image, don’t tell someone else how they should look, think, or feel. If you aren’t in a marriage, don’t judge someone else’s.
- Make an effort to see your friends. It gets so hard after college and you really do have to make a concerted effort.
- Don’t be afraid to do something outside of what your degree is in. If you love something or see someone else doing something you would think you would love go for it. Life. Is. Too. Short.
- No car, house, apartment, pair of boots, or piece of clothing is worth it if you can’t afford it. Live within your means (and pay off your student loans!!)
- The only appropriate responses to seeing someone’s baby or hearing their baby’s name is “he/she is adorable” and “that is beautiful.”
- If something makes you feel more like yourself then don’t ever let anyone make you feel stupid for pursuing it. Even yourself.
- Who you marry is THE most important decision you will make in your life.
- Quit laying in tanning beds. Seriously. Stop.
- If you are ever feeling like you aren’t sure what to do or where your life is going the best place to go is church.
- For the most part, your parents will say/do/advise things because they love you and want to protect you. Sometimes you need to listen to them and sometimes you need to ignore them.
- You are never too busy to visit your mom.
- Get a hobby, it can be literally anything other than watching Netflix.
- You are a lot less cool than you think you are in some ways and at the same time you are way cooler than you think you are in the best ways.
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